Every time I am in public and I hear a man chide a woman on her use of profanity: I get even angrier when I hear men say, “Don’t you know any other words” or “That’s not very ladylike.” First, equating profanity to sub-par intelligence is just insulting and frankly elitist. Intelligent people swear. Second, any woman has the right to define for herself her own relationship to her womanhood. She has the right to build for herself her own femininity. Period. She doesn’t need some man telling her what is or isn’t “ladylike.”
Street Harassment: I saw this with a lot more frequency when I was living in Baltimore, but I’ve seen it or heard about it once or twice in Southern California too. In Baltimore, one particularly bad instance of it happened when I was walking home from a bar. I was a block away from my apartment, when this guy drove up beside me, said, “Baby, I love you” then mimed for me his (lack of) cunnilingual skill. In Los Angeles, a good friend of mine was driving home from her teaching job, and on the freeway, a truck driver pulled up beside her car and held up a piece of paper with his phone number accompanied by an amateur sketch of what (he thinks) his junk looks like. This shit isn’t flattering. This shit isn’t going to get you laid. In fact, doing this shit might one day get some very hot beverage “accidentally” spilled on your junk. Just saying.